Relationships are conduits for life's greatest treasures: love, peace, security and wisdom. There's one seldom practiced posture to enjoy relationships on your best level.
- Pride has no place in relationships.
Pride is a first cousin to experience. Pride refuses to learn the lesson without first-hand experience. We have made up arrogant minds and strut ignorantly into a future we pretend to control. With crossed fingers and queasy hopes, we will fate to mirror the scenarios we've imagined in our heads and desire in our hearts. We are prepared to be "right" and remind others of our accurate intuition. But when we are wrong, we are ill equipped to seek the support and solace of those we shunned to avoid any perspective outside of our plans.
Pride has no place in relationships. Ditch your pride. Don't be a doormat. Don't abandon boundaries. When you know you're wrong, admit it. Not internally to yourself, but audibly to the other person(s). Forgive as you want to be forgiven. Holding onto offenses against you with amnesia of your offenses against others is pride. The only relationship pride strengthens is the one with isolation.
- Wisdom is the best teacher.
Make the exchange of wisdom a priority in your relationships. Learn to give and glean wisdom. Every relationship has its own wisdom to offer. Are you holding back wisdom that could save another from heartbreak? Are you always the expert, the know-it-all-in every relationships? Are you ignoring the wisdom of others who have less experience? Relax your pride. Suspend your judgment. Open your heart to wisdom.
- Humility is a must have.
Humility fosters honesty and emotional stability in healthy relationships. We must clearly and honestly state our desires and articulate our needs in relationships; but humility requires personal responsibility. In humility, I present my request; and in emotional stability, I honor your right to respond as you choose. If your answer is not what I desired or expected, I don't bully you in pride. I humbly honor your choice and meet my needs in a wholesome alternative.
Humility not only acknowledges my frailties, but also, nestles me by streams of wisdom. The best inquiries are wasted without humility to hear and receive answers. Humility hears wisdom. Your wisdom may be neither a path, nor perspective, I had previously considered. It is humility, not stupidity, to ask questions before you decide a course of action. If you want someone to always agree with you, talk in the mirror. If you will not humble yourself to hear, don't ask people to mentor you. If you want depth and closeness in relationships, be the first to drop your pride, seek wisdom and humble yourself.